Do you ever wonder if you’re doing the best for your child? Are you concerned about her future?
Discover the key to shaping your child’s beliefs today before you end up unintentionally sabotaging her future.
Learn how the parenting method of Belief Shaping can help you raise a happy child who grows into a successful fulfilled adult.
How would you handle this scenario?
It’s been a rough day. You left your child at home with the babysitter so you could run errands. Traffic was ridiculous. You spent 3 hours at the mall looking for the right shower curtain rings. Somebody cut the line at the grocery store.
When you finally get home that evening, you’re tired and agitated. And then, just as you open the front door, you’re greeted with a scene that makes you want to throw your bulging bag of groceries out the window…
The babysitter’s fast asleep on the sofa, and your grinning child has just crayoned her own rendition of the Sistine Chapel on your freshly painted living room wall.
So how will you react? Will you…
A) Confiscate your child’s crayons, and tell her to never, ever do that again?
B) Tell yourself “she’s just a child, she doesn’t know any better,” and proceed to give the babysitter a scolding she’ll never forget?
C) Try to forget about the whole ordeal, and do your best to clean up the mess later that night?
As a parent, you’re faced with these kinds of tough decisions every day. And because the best way to handle them isn’t always clear, sometimes you just need to go with your gut, right? But what if I told you that no matter which of these options you choose…
Your interaction with your children could end up seriously damaging their future!
And by their future, I mean everything about it. Your interactions could damage their self-esteem. They could hurt their chances of having a successful and rewarding career. They may impair their ability to have healthy relationships with their friends, family, and even their own children. And finally, they could even take away their joy and zest for life.
I know it sounds almost silly. How can a seemingly inconsequential situation really make that kind of an impact in the long run? The answer lies in the nature of your child’s mind.
It is known that our fundamental beliefs are formed during childhood. Science has proven that at a young age, your child’s mind interprets even the the smallest situations and remarks, and tattoos them into permanent subconscious beliefs that she bears for the rest of her life. The danger here is that…
Even seemingly “innocent” situations like the one above can lead to devastating NEGATIVE beliefs.
A belief is a statement about reality that we believe is the TRUTH. And so if you chose option A in the above scenario, your child could develop a strong belief that it is unsafe to express herself. Choose B or C, and she could develop a belief that rules don’t apply, and there are no consequences to her actions.
Take a second and think about the potential consequences of each of these beliefs in every area of your child’s life. How will they affect her happiness, her grades at school, her bond with you? Ten, twenty, thirty years from now, how will they affect her career, finances, relationships and well being?
Can you now visualize just how serious an impact these beliefs can have? Even more so when you realize that…
Did you know?
75% of your child’s brain mass is developed post-birth!
Research has proven that the first 6 years is your children’s golden window of learning! Interestingly, here the ‘learning’ is not being pointed towards the one that comes from books, it’s more related to parents interaction or behavior towards their children.
75% of your child’s brain mass is developed post-birth!
So, What are you teaching them? What beliefs are you instilling in them?
The beliefs you instill in your child will influence her right down to the cellular level.
Famous poet John Milton once said, “The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.” What Milton could never have anticipated is that cutting-edge science is now proving that statement to be true.
In a groundbreaking study, acclaimed cellular biologist Dr. Bruce Lipton has found that our emotions and beliefs actually rewrite our genetic code and that our minds critically influence what we experience, perceive and accomplish in life.
And because 75% of your child’s brain mass is developed after birth, his formative years make him especially susceptible to external influences. On the bright side, it’s a golden window for learning and discovery. Unfortunately this is also the time when you and your child’s teachers, friends, and even the media could be silently implanting a variety of crippling negative beliefs in your child’s mind.
It’s also important to understand that…
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Negative beliefs can be formed every day, and at any given moment.
It can happen when you’re negotiating with your child to finish his homework, or when you’re taking him to the playground, or even when you’re simply tucking him into bed. It can happen when he’s watching TV, or in the classroom. It can happen when he’s out playing with his friends.
But here’s the good news: whether you’re expecting a newborn, or if you have a young child, or even if you have a tween who has likely adopted a variety of negative beliefs… it’s never too late.
Because there is an ideal solution to the kind of scenario I gave you earlier. And, yes, there is a way to protect your child from devastating negative beliefs, so that…
- Your child grows into a productive, responsible and conscious adult with healthy self-esteem, a successful career and healthy loving relationships.
- Your child becomes happier and more fulfilled in the now, so she does better at school, knows what she wants, and acts out less.
- You connect better with your child, which means less grief and frustration, less arguments, and more moments of empathy and connection.
- You enjoy more satisfaction and suffer less guilt as a parent through the confidence that you’re making the right choices for your child.
How? I’ll share the answer with you in a few moments, but first allow me to introduce myself.
I was completely blown away by what I heard and what I learned.
If everybody did this, I think the world would be a different place.
Hi, my name’s Shelly Lefkoe.
I’m a parenting expert and a proud mother of two amazing daughters. And the reason I’ve set up this page is to share a crucial message with you.
You see in addition to on top of raising my daughters, I’ve spent the past 20 years working with over 5,000 clients worldwide through my organization, The Lefkoe Way. And in this time I have discovered that the cause behind virtually every unwanted behavior or thought pattern in a person – like self-esteem issues, procrastination, dishonesty, pessimism, even eating issues – stems from the negative beliefs that are created in childhood.
Beliefs like “I’m not good enough”, “I’ll never get what I want in life”, “Relationships are difficult”, and “I’m powerless”.
In other words, the problems your child has tomorrow will be a direct result of how you raise him today.
What has struck me most is that many of these beliefs are caused when parents criticize, invalidate, yell at or ignore their children. But tragically, even the most devoted, well-meaning parent often unknowingly burdens their child with beliefs that will hinder them later in life.
I know the reason you’re on this page is because you want the absolute best for your child. You would never do anything to hurt or hinder them in any way. And you want to be absolutely certain that you’re doing your job as a committed and conscious parent.
I know where you’re coming from, because I wanted the exact same things for my children. And that’s why I’m so confident that my message will change your life and your child’s life, because after helping people eliminate beliefs for 25 years, I know exactly which beliefs cause which behaviors and I have seen my own children and the children of my clients flourish…
By understanding beliefs and how they are formed, you can STOP the formation of negative beliefs in your child and replace them with positive beliefs that serve him instead of sabotage him.
I’m talking about empowering beliefs that lead to unbreakable self-esteem, inner happiness, good grades in school, and a rewarding and successful future career. A deep, loving relationship with his friends, schoolmates, co-workers, and, of course, you.
For the sake of yourself and your child, I invite you to join me on a journey towards becoming a belief-conscious parent. All it takes is a mind shift, and learning a simple, yet powerful parenting technique, complete with skills and tools to make it easy to use.
I’ll show you what those are in the next few lines, but first it’s important that you understand…
The 5 most common behavioral problems everyone has, and the sneaky negative beliefs that cause them.
To help you fully understand how beliefs are formed, let me tell you about the thousands of clients I’ve worked with.
I have helped chronic procrastinators. People who are obsessed over what others think of them. People with low self-esteem, high stress levels, a fear of failure, anxiety, poor relationship choices and even just general unhappiness.
And what I’ve found is that most of these challenges stem from these 5 common beliefs:
- “I’m not good enough.”
- “Mistakes and failures are bad.”
- “If I make a mistake and fail, I will be rejected.”
- “I’m not important.”
- “What makes me good enough is having other people think well of me.”
The big question here is, where do these beliefs come from? The answer can only be explained once you understand how beliefs are formed:
“I’m not good enough”
Excessively criticizing your child
“I’m not important”
Putting other people’s need before yours
Not giving your child a voice, saying “because i said so”, not giving your child choices.
“I’m not lovable”
Choosing relationships where you don’t get treated well
Not giving children affection or not saying ‘I Love You’ to them
“Mistakes and failures are bad”
Yelling at your child or withdrawing from them when they make a mistake
“I’m only good enough if other people think I’m good”
Not expressing yourself fully
Worrying more about what other people will think rather than what is good for your child
Is this your child’s favorite 3-letter word?
Anyone who’s ever been a parent can easily tell you that a child’s favorite word is “why?“. Your child wants to know why you make him go to bed at 9 p.m. sharp. why he needs to eat his greens. why he can’t have a TV in his room.
The biggest mistake you can make as a parent is to forget this fact. When you communicate with your child, like when you tell him to do something, or you give him advice, or even if he just hears you talking to a friend on the phone, a chain reaction of why’s will trigger in his head and a belief will start to take shape.
Sometimes he’ll verbalize these why’s, and sometimes he won’t. But what’s important to remember is that the answer to those why’s will shape a particular belief in him.
If your child can come to an empowering conclusion, for example if you tell him he needs to go to bed because a good night’s rest will help him focus at school, then he’s likely to form a belief that rest is important to be successful. But if you instead force her to go to bed, she may form a limiting belief: that what she wants doesn’t matter, or that she’s powerless..
The question is, how are you as a parent facilitating your child’s thought process? Are you guiding her why’s? Are you helping her shape beliefs that will hold her back… or set her free?
Introducing the parenting method of Belief Shaping
Belief Shaping is what I call the act of being conscious towards your child’s why’s. It’s knowing exactly how to interact with your child in a way that encourages positive beliefs.
It’s understanding how your child will interpret different scenarios, instructions and messages, whether they come from you, teachers, friends or the media, and helping them shape the beliefs that will serve them and enable them throughout their life. It’s stimulating your child to adopt positive beliefs through specific exercises and tools.
Let me show you an example. Remember that scenario I gave you earlier on? If you were practicing Belief Shaping, you’d have taken the crayons from your child, and told her that you love it when he draws, and that he’s so creative.
Then you would say something like, “Your creativity is amazing and I understand that the walls look like a perfect drawing spot, but the walls in our house are meant for framed artwork. So why don’t we get a canvas for you, so you can draw on it? Then we can frame it and put it on the wall!”
Small gestures like that make a monumental difference to growing minds. When you practice Belief Shaping, you’re giving your child the gift of a happier present and a brighter future. You’re giving them the space to develop strong self-esteem, talent and creativity..
And an adulthood enriched by a fulfilling and rewarding career, a healthy attitude towards money, a passion for life, and deep, meaningful relationships with her friends, family and future spouse.
Now if that’s the kind of life you envision for your child, I urge you to read the following words very, very carefully:
In the last 25 years I have mastered the art of Belief Shaping by listening to people’s problems and helping them eliminate the beliefs that caused their problems. The principles, exercises, techniques, and lessons that form the Belief Shaping method have evolved from these years of work.
My personal mission is to teach parents how to empower children to be all they can be and to share this system with as many parents as possible.
Did you know?
The Lefkoe Method, the principle method behind Belief Shaping, has been independently verified by a study conducted at the University of Arizona.
To date, it has helped more than 25,000 verified customers in over 50 different countries around the world!
I want you to enjoy being a parent – and I’m confident that Belief Shaping will help you nurture a happy, successful and fulfilled child…
Who in turn contributes more to the world, and makes it a better place for everyone. In other words, it’s about the big picture (the world) as much as it is about the details (you and your child).
The beauty of Belief Shaping is that it doesn’t tell you what to believe or what values you should have as a parent. Instead it gives you a principle to know if your parenting is empowering your child or disempowering you child.
And now, for the first time ever, I’ve decided to take Belief Shaping out of my private consultation room, and share it with parents all over the world. It is my privilege and great joy to introduce you to…
Parenting The Lefkoe Way
Available EXCLUSIVELY on this site, Parenting The Lefkoe Way is an audio home training program for mastering the art of Belief Shaping through a structured process of lessons, parenting exercises and tools.
In a nutshell, here’s what you’re getting:
- Powerful yet fun Belief Tools to practice with your child, which will help you to take control of the daily interactions and problems that so often lead to negative beliefs.
- An opportunity to examine your own beliefs that may get in the way of you being the parent you really want to be.
- Conscious parenting guidance that gives you expert training on the best way to handle virtually every situation you will encounter as a parent, from nap time to homework to tantrums.
- Thought-provoking case studies highlighting other parents’ experiences and how they caused or prevented negative belief formation in their children.
- And much, much more!
Parenting The Lefkoe Way is divided into 7 unique sessions.
Here’s a detailed look at each of them:
Building your foundation for Belief Shaping
Learn how to get the most out of the program in this essential introductory session. Follow Shelly’s lead as she reveals some of the surprising scenarios in which beliefs are formed, and takes you through a selection of fun exercises for getting in the right frame of mind as a belief-shaping parent.
- The Future Pacing exercise: use this to discover what’s truly best for your child’s future and how to give it to them.
- The ‘imagine you’re a kid again’ visualization: put yourself in your child’s shoes, and find out how your actions really affect him.
- The often-overlooked 3 A’s that every child needs most.(many parents can tick off 1 or 2 of these, but few fulfill all 3)
Mastering the 5 trickiest negotiations with your child
From getting her to finish her homework, to doing chores, to going to bed, you’re negotiating with your child all day, every day. Discover how to become a master negotiator in 5 of the trickiest daily parenting scenarios, so you can avoid burdening her with limiting beliefs in the process.
- The 2 do-or-die questions that should guide every single thing you say and do as a parent.
- What should you do when your child lies? Shelly’s surprising response to her daughter’s lie, and how it ended up bringing them closer together.
- The Anger Trap: it’s only human to get angry, but these 3 common parental expressions of anger are particularly devastating to children!
The negative beliefs that cause ineffective parenting
Let’s not forget that just like your child, you have your own set of negative beliefs too. Learn how these beliefs are affecting your abilities as a parent. This session turns the spotlight on your inner psyche, and reveals what you must do to be a better parent.
- What’s your definition of a “good child”? Try this exercise, and discover how your perceptions influence your parenting style.
- Telling your child “NO”: how to know whether your tough love is doing your child a favor, or hurting her.
- “Because I said so!” Why this one familiar phrase harms millions of children worldwide every day.
Self-esteem: the greatest gift you’ll ever give your child
After working with thousands of people, Shelly has found that healthy self-esteem is the key to a happy, successful life, while negative self-esteem underlies virtually every unwanted behavior pattern. In this session you’ll learn how to cultivate unbreakable self-esteem in your child.
- The right way to motivate your child (hint: it doesn’t involve yelling at them when they stumble).
- How to spot the crucial difference between self-esteem and narcissism, so your child grows up self-assured instead of self-centered.
- The Survival strategy beliefs:why even successful people with happy families are not immune to underlying self-esteem issues.
Essential skills and tools for Belief Shaping
In this engaging session, Shelly shares a selection of powerful parenting skills and tools for nurturing your child’s beliefs and self-esteem. Practice each of them a few times and you’ll find yourself naturally incorporating the principles into your daily parenting habits.
- Brainstorming with your child: how to turn a typical workplace activity into an exercise that nurtures your child’s self-esteem and creativity.
- Is your child hiding something from you, like a problem at school? Try this foolproof technique for getting your child to open up to you (you’ll be surprised at some of the things she tells you).
- The Possibilities Game: an engaging exercise to remind your child that failure is a necessary step towards success. The perfect pick-me-up if he’s disappointed with his grades or losing a soccer game.
The harsh truth about your beliefs
Revisiting Session 3, you’ll take an even deeper journey into your personal beliefs and how they’re influencing your parenting style. Discover even more limiting beliefs that could be silently but critically sabotaging your efforts to raise a happy and successful child.
- “Am I responsible for my child’s behavior?” Banishing a common misconception that cripples most parents.
- Why expecting your child to behave like an adult results in children feeling incapable (remember this the next time you get angry).
- Ice cream for breakfast? An eye-opening experiment on trust, and why our children often deserve more credit than we give them.
Resisting negative external influences
Learn how outside influences like teachers and the media can influence your child. In this final session you’ll learn to train your child to interpret outside influences in a positive way, even when you’re not physically present.
- Consequences versus meaning: the powerful distinction that can help you and your child triumph over any challenge, problem or loss.
- What to do if your child’s teacher is sabotaging her self esteem (all it takes is a 5-minute conversation).
- The power of perception: how to train your child to see the positive side of any occurrence so she can take away a constructive lesson from it.
The “switch” that activates your child’s genius…
In the year 2000, the Nobel prize-winning neuroscientist Eric Kandel discovered that our brains choose which genes in our DNA are turned on, based on our thoughts and actions.
The implications of Kandel’s research on your child are fascinating: that there may be a musical, scientific or academic genius, just as much as there may be an alcoholic or a gambling addict lying dormant in his DNA.
Your job as a parent? To help your child form beliefs that lead to the right thoughts and actions for switching on the genes that will lead him or her to a happy and successful future.
And that’s what I’m here to help you do.
“I wish I had found Parenting the Lefkoe Way sooner. ”
“I recently bought your CDs and they have been SO helpful, I only wish I’d found them sooner. I have much work to do with my beliefs and my own self esteem. I am the youngest of thirteen and grew up around a lot of yelling, fighting & stress. But I am committed to not repeat. My daughters are 5 & 8.Thank you”
Parenting the Lefkoe Way is a great tool for struggling parents”
“Parenting the Lefkoe Way is a great tool for parents that are struggling with their kids’ behaviours and are looking at their behaviours as the problem. It is a great program to make parents aware of the whole which includes them (the parents) and their parenting style. Since awareness has to come first before people can change, the program can help parents with this important and essential first step.”
Your Wonderful Pearls Of Wisdom!
“Thanks Shelly, another of your wonderful pearls of wisdom! Building our kids beliefs in a positive way is so powerful, and so important. Parents are busy and we often let life in general take priority over relating to our kids. Making a commitment to make a time to really listen with all our attention to our kids helps them to feel valued, and builds their esteem. Fantastic!”
My commitment to affordability
Parenting The Lefkoe Way gives you the exact same Belief Shaping process that I share with my clients at private $200- per-hour sessions.
But my personal goal is to share Belief Shaping with as many parents as possible and I do realize my rates are out of reach for many people, even more so in these challenging times.
That’s precisely why I’ve decided to release Parenting The Lefkoe Way. You see I’ve spent decades conducting parenting workshops in different countries and states and parents would fly hundreds of miles and spend thousands of dollars just to be at one.
But because Parenting The Lefkoe Way is a home training program, both you and I have much less overhead. I don’t need to spend on venue and staff. You don’t need to spend on travel and accommodation.
So Parenting The Lefkoe Way won’t cost you
The investment I’m proposing to you is
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Designed for busy parents like you
Let’s be Real: how many parents have the time to drop what they’re doing, and spend hours every day listening to an intensive home training program? Not many, and that’s why Parenting The Lefkoe Way is designed to be an enjoyable learning experience you can study at your own pace.
Play the audios on your computer or iPod and listen to them when you’re relaxing or doing chores at home. Pop them in your car stereo and listen when you’re running errands or taking the kids to soccer practice. Or go ahead and listen to them when you’re jogging or on the bus, train or plane.
And unlike many other sleep-inducing parenting programs, Parenting the Lefkoe Way is a fun and engaging experience. You’ll actually look forward to your sessions with me. Promise!
Even better, the sessions are arranged in a way that lets you learn at your own pace. No need to rush and no need to stress out if your busy schedule requires you to sideline the program for a week or two.
In fact, I recommend taking your time, and moving on to a new session only when you’re relaxed and completely comfortable with the previous one.
Just stay committed and persistent, and I guarantee you’ll see the changes you want to see in yourself: just like thousands of parents worldwide already have.
My Parent-To-Parent Triple Guarantee
3 distinct guarantees for your total satisfaction and peace of mind.
Guarantee #1: Quality
The impeccable quality of every lesson, every technique and every exercise in Parenting The Lefkoe Way will exceed your every expectation, and you’ll enjoy every second of the program. Even the online membership area where you’ll listen to the audios has been built with the greatest of care.
Guarantee #2: Results
Upon using Parenting The Lefkoe Way, you’ll develop profound changes to your parenting style that positively transform the way you interact with and handle your child. You’ll quickly notice positive and lasting changes in your child as he starts developing the right beliefs.
Guarantee #3: Impact on Your Life
Parenting The Lefkoe Way will grow you into an empowered belief-conscious parent who nurtures a happy, successful and fulfilled child. In fact I can confidently say that you’ll see Belief Shaping as the turning point that changed you and your child for the better.
I keep my promises. If for any unlikely reason Parenting The Lefkoe Way doesn’t live up to any of the above three criteria, just send me an email within 60 days of your date of purchase for a full, no-questions-asked refund.
Did you know?
TIME Magazine devoted an issue to parenting, citing it’s deteriorated state and terming American’s kids as a “disadvantaged minority”. This was an early warning sign, indicating a dire need for our nation to wake up and re-evaluate the way we parent. Generations of children have experienced the damages, but thankfully there are people working towards reversing those damages.
We hope YOU are one of them!
As a parent, this could be the most important decision you ever make…
From one parent to another, allow me to put this into perspective for you: you are responsible for the emotional, physical, spiritual and intellectual development of another human being.
It’s a huge responsibility, and you need all the backup you can get.
And that’s precisely what I’m here to give you. Let me help you shape empowering beliefs in your child. Let me take the guess work out of your parenting. Let me help you feel happier, more confident and more fulfilled as a parent…
What A 47 Year Old Single Dad Has To Say About The Lefkoe Method
~ Patrick McMillan, Co-Founder of Happier Kids Now and author of An Exercise in Happiness
The information in this course is an eye opener.
So that you never, ever need to battle that dreaded thought:
“Am I doing the right thing?”
When you start implementing the tools and techniques from Parenting The Lefkoe Way you will notice the positive changes immediately. Getting your child to do chores like putting away her toys or dressing herself will be that much easier. Setting rules and boundaries will become effortless. You’ll notice a stronger bond than ever before.
Best of all, these positive changes will only get better as the years go by. Your happy child will grow into a balanced teenager and finally a successful adult. Isn’t that what every parent wants for their child?
I invite you to join me on this journey and see what Belief Shaping can do for you and your child’s life.
To you and your child living your fullest life,
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